Taking responsibility for the problem

Do you dare to take responsibility for what is going on in your life?
And for finding the solution now?

Ask yourself: What do I need in myself to change?

Somewhere in the book, Rob de Groof gives an example of a customer who asks his help to stop drinking. But the reason he wants a hypnosis session now is because his wife caught him. He drinks secretly and then it won’t work. Because there is always such a thing as free will and that is a good thing.

I’ve also had someone come here for a session who got pissed that I didn’t just sit down and tap for 2 hours. But of course I need to know what she wants to change. What she wants to get rid of and what she does want. But this lady didn’t want to talk about anything and was terrified that anything would actually change. The fear of change is often unconscious.

Who do you think is responsible for your change?

  • An accident, an illness, the weather… Everything can mess up your life, destroy your home or your body. Shit happens!
  • Everything can happen to you. You can’t prevent that and you can’t do anything about it from happening. But you can take control of the solution yourself, regardless of what happened.
  • You are responsible for your response. Not for what happened to you.
  • Give yourself a chance and some time to let it fall into place.
  • Sometimes people in their desperation do all kinds of therapies at the same time and run from here to there and not finish anything.
  • Ask yourself: What do I want to change? What are the disadvantages of that change? What can I lose if I solve this problem? Strangely enough, there are (unconsciously) also disadvantages. For example: If I am no longer sick, I will not be taken care of.

Taking responsibility is not the same as taking the blame. Shit happens, like someone runs you over, someone dies or someone doesn’t want to see you any more. You are not necessarily responsible for situations like this and they might affect you.

But you are responsible for what you do with it. And if you want to cry for 6 weeks, you can do it. It’s one of many ways to clean the wound and it will not fester and you will not get the syndrome. You have one more experience. Everything has a reason and everything passes.

Do you know what you want?

What frustrating habits or memories do you want to let go?
And what of all the good do you want more in your life?

Do you actually believe that there’s a solution for your problem?

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